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Online dating has become very popular over the years and it might just be the #1 way you get a date these days. Let’s face it, the most important thing on a dating profile are the pictures. You know what kinds of pictures you like to see and which kinds turn you off. But do you know what the women like and don’t like about your pictures? If not, keep on reading. First of all, I have my opinion but I didn’t want this to be all about what I like, so I surveyed a group of gorgeous, intelligent, classy (a.k.a high value) women and asked them their opinions on dating profile pics. This is what they told me.
What Women Want To See:
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A Minimum of 3 to 4 Photos– We need to formulate an opinion on your looks. One photo is too little information for us to work with.
Your Face– Clearly. No hiding behind sunglasses, scuba masks, ski goggles or blurred pixels.
A Close Up– Not too close though! Your face should take up a maximum of 2/3 of the frame.
- Both OkCupid and Tinder are free to use and require no sign up fee, but have a lot of features you need to pay for. OkCupid offers A-List which allows you to see who likes you, refine who you see, see when someone has read your messages, and also removes all the ads from the app. You can pay $9.99 for 1 month, or choose a 3 or 6 month option.
- The Tinder is your oyster. Neither work for me so I'd say there's no difference! Okcupid is doing ok for me.I guess I just expected much more from it.I thought I'd anticipate the dates and meeting women more but often turns into a headache. I have had two tinder dates.
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A Picture that Tells Us a Bit About You– For example, a photo of you doing something that you love. If you are a chef, have someone snap a picture of you in the kitchen in your uniform. If you play soccer, let’s see you on the field. Do you love fishing? Have a friend snap a pic of you next time you are out on a boat. Love your dog? Let’s see you having fun with the little guy.
Current Photos– This is super important! Don’t set anyone up for disappointment. Your photos must be an accurate portrayal of what they should expect to see when they meet you. To further confirm that they are current, put the date that the photo was taken in the captions.
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Full Body Photo– Let’s be real, whether you are male or female, you would like to see what the person looks like so you can decide if you are physically attracted to them.
An Everyday Photo– This should be a casual pic showing your everyday style. Style is a big deal to most women.
A Dressed Up Photo– Use this to your advantage – this is usually when you look your best. A man in a well-fitting suit is going to do for a woman what a pic of a woman in a bikini does for men. (Hint, hint)
Which One You Are– If you are going to add group photos, clearly identify which one is you in the caption.
Your Smile– Women want to see teeth. If you don’t have the best teeth, don’t worry. This way you’re already screening out the women who care about that. A little secret though … when all your pictures are tight –lipped, we assume you’re hiding your teeth for a reason.
What Women Don’t Want To See:
Shirtless Pics– Don’t get me wrong, we do like a hot bod, but we don’t want it served to us naked on a platter. We like to imagine what is under that suit or that T-shirt and jeans. If you are proud of your body and are afraid that we won’t notice, not to fear. If you are wearing clothes that fit you well, women have a magical way of knowing that you have a great body without you having to take anything off.
Photos with Other Girls– Unless it’s a family member and label that clearly.
Obvious Cut Outs of Ex Girlfriend– I’ve also seen photos where the ex isn’t even cut out. Awkward. Seriously, if you are ready to date after a failed relationship, take the opportunity to present yourself as the “new you”. New life, new pics.
Kids in the Photo with No Explanation of Their Relationship to You– Some women would date a single parent. Some might not. Make it clear if those kids are your’s or your sister’s.
Old Pics– Remember, the purpose of a dating profile is to get to meet people in person. Although you want to give a flattering portrayal of yourself on your profile, it also needs to have integrity. Your profile and photos should make you look good and it’s important that they look like you these days.
Model Shots– There is such a thing as being too good looking. We’d like to be the pretty ones in the relationship.
Emo Pics– We want men that look happy with their lives.
Over Filtered or Photoshopped Pics– Yes, we all love our filters but just try not to go overboard. It should look like a really good picture of you, not of someone that doesn’t even exist in real life.
These Kinds of Pics
- Bathroom Selfies
- Car Selfies
- Pixelated/ blurry pics
- Partying pics
- Far Away pics
- Goofy face pics
Especially with the way dating sites are set up sort of like a catalogue of faces, it is important that you have photos that stand out from the other guys. The good news for you is that the majority of photos online fall in the “What women don’t want to see” category. Now that you know what you can do to improve your photos, you will have a leg up on the competition. If you have a friend that is a photographer, next time you hang out with him or her, tell them that you need some pics for your profile. If they are cool, they’d probably be interested in helping you out. Also, ask your female friends or family members to select from a few images that you’ve already picked out. They might already have a favorite pic in mind that they have seen on your Facebook or Instagram. I’ve happily done that for my male friends and if you are a good guy, most females would be happy to help you out.
Now that I’ve let you in on the female perspective regarding your photos, next time I’ll give you some tips on writing those “nice messages”. Stay tuned and good luck out there in the dating world!
Connect with Adriana Green at AdrianaGreen.com, Trig & Polished, Instagram, and Twitter.
About Adriana Green
Adriana Green always roots for the good guys. She also enjoys making good people look great. She runs a mens street style site called Trig & Polished (www.trigandpolished.com), in which she scours the streets for stylish men with the mission of promoting good men's style. She appreciates more than just well-dressed men; see what else by checking out her photography at www.adrianagreen.com. Connect with her on Instagram @adrianagreenphotography & @trigandpolished
If you’re a single 20-something, you’ve probably tiptoed into the weird world of online dating ... and not on a paid site like Match.com. I’m talking Tinder and OkCupid. Whether you try one or more of these apps, you quickly learn that free dating sites are full of grammar-butchering creeps — with a few hidden gems (like you, duh). If you go on enough online dates, you realize that there are some key differences between Tinder and OkCupid — and the type of people you'll meet. Because I’ve been on my fair share of Tinder and OkCupid adventures lately, I’m going to impart my wisdom to you and point out just what these differences are.
First off, a couple disclaimers. I live in Milwaukee, and there is a very strange and specific dating pool here: Green Bay Packer-loving bros and super grungy hipsters. When I visit Chicago on weekends, the number of normal Tinder users in my radius multiplies. But somewhere in between these extremes, there are some great guys looking for relationships on dating sites. I met a long-term ex-boyfriend on OkCupid and have even made friends from some fun but chemistry-free dates. That said, as you begrudgingly give up your weeknights on the couch and venture out on dates with Internet dudes, you might also notice these clear differences between guys on Tinder and guys on OkCupid:
1. Tinder guys... match with you but don't message
OkCupid guys ... message multiple times, even when you don’t respond
2. Tinder guys ... post lots of shirtless selfies
OkCupid guys... post lots of clothed selfies in front of webcams
3. Tinder guys... like fishing and riding motorcycles
OkCupid guys... like hiking and watching Netflix
4. Tinder guys... kiss you on the first date and try to take you home
Okcupid Or Tinder
OkCupid guys... give you an awkward hug on the first date (and second and third)
Tender Free Online Dating
5. Tinder guys... are more likely to be touring musicians you'll never see again
OkCupid guys... are more likely to be computer nerds who actually live next door
6. Tinder guys... want to meet up for drinks in the evening
Okcupid Browse As Guest
OkCupid guys... want to meet up for coffee in the afternoon
7. Tinder guys... aren't looking for anything serious
OkCupid guys... take things WAY too seriously
You've been warned — now get out there and find your online dream date!
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